Interview with Dramady
Dramady is Zacery Stanley & Amanda Mason Wiles. They were previously in Six Foot Sloth together & formed there own project as that project ended.
QRD – How do you turn music mode on & off in your relationship with each other? Or do you find yourself pretty constantly collaborating on music even if it’s songs about cooking?
Zac – The music talk only happens when we’re in the basement. Seriously. We’re pretty normal.
QRD – How has your music changed by having someone you’re romantically involved with working with you?
Zac – It’s way better. It’s more mysterious. Are you singing about me? Probably not. This song looks like you, nooo you look like this song.
QRD – How do you keep things professional rather than getting personal in the band? Like not letting being upset that someone’s not doing their house chores spill into band practice?
Zac – Uh… Drugs help. Although everything still somehow stays personal.
QRD – Do you think working musically together increases the strength of your relationship?
Zac – Without a doubt. I think all couples have to have ways to bond, & being a rock star is cool. Dude. Yeah!
QRD – Do you think the music ever suffers because of your relationship?
Zac – Yeeeeeeeah. Only specifically in this way: maybe we suck cuz maybe we don’t get enough practicing done, because maybe we just want to lay in bed & maybe “watch movies” & such.
QRD – Being in a romantic couple, do you try to curb lyrical content to or away from things in your relationship?
Zac – Well, a lot of the time my lyrics are confusing & sarcastic, so it’s hard for the listener to tell; but I always somehow manage to curb lyrics toward relationship things.
QRD – A lot of families kind of look down on musicians as immature, do you find that going out with another musician has eased relationships with your parents or in-laws?
Zac – Yeah, it really puts my reality more into focus for my parents. (Yes, I’m now even more obviously going to play music for the rest of my life. Sorry.)
QRD – Which came first the musical collaboration or the relationship & do you feel that at this point that you could have one without the other?
Zac – That’s a hard one. We were in a band together, dating other people. Shit went down, we hooked up, band broke up, Dramady happened. No, we could not have one without the other. That would be a pointless struggle. I think.
QRD – How do things work with band members besides the two of you to get the same level of connectivity while playing your music?
Zac – I never get the same level of connectivity with others. Ever.
QRD – Do you find music related gifts to be romantic or more like giving someone an appliance?
Zac – I think it’s romantic. Yes. Guitar amps & microphones are tools to help a person express passion. Awww, that’s cute.
QRD – The musician life style has an inherent lack of financial security & healthcare. Do you find yourself thinking, “How can we start a family & continue our musical careers?”
Zac – Yeah, I totally suck. We need to be discovered. I would love to make music my job. Sheesh. & we already have our little family. (Ben the old man cat, Maggie sweet kitten, & Bella the beast dog)
QRD – Do you ever switch off instruments to give each other ideas?
Zac – No, I’m locked in my zone, man. The drum cage.
QRD – A lot of people say they feel most spiritually connected to another person is when they’re on stage & the set is working. Is this what you find & how does this energy flow into your romantic relationship?
Zac – Maybe not the most spiritually connected, but up there indeed. Yeah, you know, it’s something to talk about before we fall asleep. We’re proud of each other.
QRD – Some couples start to get seen as a unit with one member as dominant. Do you ever want to get one of you more recognition?
Zac – I think that being equal is one of the charming things about our band. We’re both multitasking & making the song happen equally. Hooooft. I think we are both equally dominant, but I want Amanda to sing more.
QRD – Do you feel a need to have separate projects where you just work on your own?
Zac – YES. Zacery Stanley solo album “Make Time” self released Jan 08. Yeeeah. & I am the new drummer for Miss Massive Snowflake.
QRD – Musicians often run into fans with crushes, is there a secret to recognizing when something is getting inappropriate instead of being band promoting?
Zac – Trust your lover. Promote your band.
QRD – Any advice for other musician couples?
Zac – Don’t stop believing. Hang
on to that feeling. I’m serious. Oh, & be in another band
without your lover too. That’s the magic balance.