Interview with The Backsliders
The Backsliders are blues band based in Texas.
QRD How do you turn music mode on & off in your relationship with each other? Or do you find yourself pretty constantly collaborating on music even if its songs about cooking?
Kim We dont & weve never written about cooking... yet.
Chris We collaborate in all aspects of our life, there is no line between the personal & the musical.
QRD How has your music changed by having someone youre romantically involved with working with you?
Kim The object knows who he is.
Chris It is the best thing that happened to me. I mean, talk about having things in common.
QRD How do you keep things professional rather than getting personal in the band? Like not letting being upset that someones not doing their house chores spill into band practice?
Kim We are not professional & the band must put up with the fact that I do not do housework.
Chris My wife does not do housework because she is hot.
QRD Do you think working musically together increases the strength of your relationship?
Chris It sure makes for a lot of togetherness.
QRD Do you think the music ever suffers because of your relationship?
Chris How could it? We write & rehearse together constantly.
QRD Being in a romantic couple, do you try to curb lyrical content to or away from things in your relationship?
Chris There is no separation between our art & our life.
QRD A lot of families kind of look down on musicians as immature, do you find that going out with another musician has eased relationships with your parents or in-laws?
Kim Its up to them - they dont really have a choice.
Chris Our families gave up on any dream of us quitting music a long time ago.
QRD Which came first the musical collaboration or the relationship & do you feel that at this point that you could have one without the other?
Kim We met in a band so music was first & no.
Chris We met playing music & I dont think I could live without either now.
QRD How do things work with band members besides the two of you to get the same level of connectivity while playing your music?
Kim Work with good players.
Chris I think they do, we respect certain boundaries. No french kissing or fist fights at rehearsal.
QRD Do you find music related gifts to be romantic or more like giving someone an appliance?
Chris The most romantic gift is the gift of song. I wrote the lyrics for Wedding Day from our new album as a proclamation of my love for her. Everybody is a sucker for that shit.
QRD The musician life style has an inherent lack of financial security & healthcare. Do you find yourself thinking, How can we start a family & continue our musical careers?
Kim Well find a way.
Chris We already have three kids so it is a little late for that.
QRD Do you ever switch off instruments to give each other ideas?
QRD A lot of people say they feel most spiritually connected to another person is when theyre on stage & the set is working. Is this what you find & how does this energy flow into your romantic relationship?
Kim Good show, good night. Bad show, oh well.
Chris Yeah, a good show makes us hot, is that what you wanted to hear? A bad show gets a little Sid & Nancy.
QRD Some couples start to get seen as a unit with one member as dominant. Do you ever want to get one of you more recognition?
Kim Chris is dominant so I stand center stage.
Chris Kim is the star.
QRD Do you feel a need to have separate projects where you just work on your own?
QRD Musicians often run into fans with crushes, is their a secret to recognizing when something is getting inappropriate instead of being band promoting?
Kim Its no secret. So far, no problems.
Chris I assume every one who talks to her wants to try & fuck her, but I trust my wife & give her space.
QRD Any advice for other musician couples?
Kim Hell no - good luck!
Chris Keep it pro, get a good sitter, & keep it clean.
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